Showing posts with label sports. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sports. Show all posts

Thursday, December 18, 2025

"Just A Game"

A long, long time ago...probably in the first year or two of this blog...I tried (at least on one or two occasions) to communicate my feelings for the RPG hobby and D&D specifically...the profundity of the thing, this activity, this game. Yes, yes, it's FUN...of course it's fun, duh...but I somehow have long felt that it is somehow important, too. And I tried to name why I felt that way (that this silly game of fantasy adventure was somehow "important"), and pretty much failed to find the words. Or even the reason.

Over the years (sheesh, 15+ I've been blogging!), I gradually came to the conclusion that the reason, if there was one, didn't really matter at all. The game was important to me, and that was enough. Perhaps whatever intuition I had that made me feel D&D somehow mattered on a larger scale than "personal" was confused narcissism: a justification of my own passion/obsession for the hobby. Lots of people have passions and obsessions; just throw me in the same category as collectors of stamps or baseball cards, rather than the research scientist looking for a cancer cure.

[by the way, I can make a case for the value of collecting; apologies if I offended with that last sentence]

However, as time has continued to pass and our world has continued to trend in a particular direction, I've come back to this inner feeling, this idea that gaming...specifically D&D gaming...is important and does have value beyond just being a "fun game." Surprisingly, I feel its importance more than ever in its value of creating human connection between people. Not just in the way that shared fandom of a sports franchise cuts across boundaries of race, gender, religion, economic background, etc. (one of the great things about sports), but in the way it promotes shared activity between people. If I'm wearing my Seahawk jersey (as I will be tonight in a Lord-I-hope-we-win game against the damnable Rams) I can make eye contact, nod, high five, or dap up any other person wearing the same jersey, no matter what our respective backgrounds happen to be. But playing D&D, I can sit down with someone and share an intimate imaginative space, holding discourse and trading ideas. D&D allows people to have a 'meeting of the minds' on a deeper level than most any activity outside our non-shared spaces (family, school, church, workplace, etc.). 

That shared activity is so much more profound than just shared recognition. 

So there's that. And I think that meaning and value and "importance" is going to become more meaningful and more valuable and more important as our world continues to move in the same direction it's been going the last decade or two. We'll see.

By the way, this holds true for any RPG, or any edition of Dungeons & Dragons. Those 5E people who are playing the game in a fashion unrecognizable to moi? They're still making human connections. That's a good thing...we NEED more human interaction between our fellow humans. So...yay!

HOWEVER, while that's the underlying importance of RPGs (as I see it), and something many (most?) of us might agree on, there are additional benefits to playing AD&D that I hadn't quite noticed until just recently...this morning, in fact...that, in my estimation, elevates my chosen edition in certain subtle ways above the hoi polloi of other RPGs, especially those with "modern sensibilities" like 5E and Shadowdark.

AD&D, in particular, is not about self-expression or collaborative storytelling. It is a structured game with fixed procedures, real consequences, non-subjective objectives of play, and an impartial referee. That structure creates trust which, in turn, enables risk. The risk makes choices matter, and out of that comes real camaraderie.

AD&D quietly teaches...and reinforces...things that modern life tends to erode:
  • Respect for External Authority (the game has rules that exist outside personal preference)
  • Negotiation Within Constraints (you can't just "try anything;" choices have costs)
  • Delayed Gratification (progress is earned, not guaranteed or a matter of fiat)
  • Risk Acceptance (failure is real and consequential)
  • Social Trust (the DM is neither adversary nor servant, but the facilitator of the game/world)
While many modern games claim to support "social play," they generally shift authority inward (play "what feels right"), cushion failure, automate judgment, and prioritize individual expression over group coherence. Meanwhile, in AD&D authority (i.e. the rules) is external and known, the outcomes are constrained by procedure, failure is both possible and meaningful, and the group (based on the PREMISE OF THE GAME) is forced to work and adapt together.

This produces consistency, and it is through that consistency that trust is earned; it is not negotiated minute by minute.

What makes this especially powerful is that AD&D does all this while masquerading as nothing more than a game. It doesn't lecture, or moralize, or have some grand statement of "this is important." Instead, it presents the rules, a dungeon, and asks 'what do you do?' And week after week, the people playing:
  • learn to listen
  • learn to plan
  • learn to balance risk
  • learn to accept loss
  • learn to trust someone else's judgment
All in the presence of others.

There is something deeply valuable about a game that requires presence, attention, cooperation, and acceptance of outcomes that cannot be endlessly revised or curated. Yes, AD&D is "just a game," but it's the kind of game that we could stand to have more of. The longer I live, the more I appreciate it.

Monday, November 24, 2025

Tis The Holiday Season

Just pumping out a post 'cause I'm not sure how much time I'm going to have to blog this week. Sofia's out of school, so while he's sleeping in (at the moment), I'm going to be hanging with her in my "free" time. Parent-teacher conferences at the middle school today...it will be interesting to hear what they have to say about my 6th grade daughter. I'm genuinely curious.

I don't talk as much about my daughter as I do my son. I don't know why other than I'm constantly amazed by his accomplishments. Sofia's amazing, too, but her "magic" is so much less demonstrative. I have a feeling that she will probably have the "bigger impact" on the world when all is said and done: she'll either end up some scientist that invents something brilliant or else she's going to wind up being some sort of famous film or music-related celebrity. But none of that is anything happening right now (other than she can astound people when she sits down at a piano in a hotel lobby)...right now she is this incredibly sweet, funny, friendly kid who just likes to smile and snicker and play. Since we brought my mom's piano home, not a day goes by without the sounds of music filling the house at some point. Right now it's a big Christmas piece she's working on. Delightful.

Yes, you heard me...delightful. I'm one of those curmudgeonly types that gets annoyed with people who start their Christmas-ing before Thanksgiving. Usually. This year has been...different. The "yacht rock" radio station that has long been on our satellite car radio...since at least 2019 as it helped soothe our nerves through the entire pandemic...disappeared a couple weeks ago to be replaced by the "Hallmark" channel which plays nothing but holiday music. And Sofia, of course, LOVES holiday music and so we've been listening to it, whenever we're out driving to one of her various things: school, church, soccer, basketball, piano, guitar. Whatever. And darned if I haven't gotten in to it, too. Like the yacht rock, it's soothing on the nerves.

Well, most of it (I'm not really into the "hip hop Christmas" stuff...give me Andy Williams or Nat King Cole any day of the week).

So, yeah. I've started the holidays early. I think we got our first thing of eggnog the week after Halloween? That went fast, and I haven't replaced it yet. Still have our "Autumnal" wreath on the door, but evergreen one is coming. We've got tickets to Mexico for Christmas...took us a while because they're so damn expensive (you can fly to Japan for half the price!). Not sure if that's just because the current administration is only interested in people taking one-way trips south of the border or what (*sigh*), but since they've made damn sure that's my in-laws can't renew their visas till 2027 (*sigh*) we must purchase four tix if we want to see our family, rather than just flying mis suegros up here. Too bad for the local economy, of course, as we'll be doing all our shopping down there...but then Trump has been nothing if not hard on the local economy. 

But enough of that...I've been in the holiday spirit, as I said, and I've been focusing on other things. My son, who I gush about far too much, has his first national volleyball tournament for his club in Los Angeles in a couple weeks, and he and I will be flying down there with the team. The last couple days we were at a local "exhibition" tournament...it was pretty wild. He's a U15, but his team was playing in the U16 division...four matches in the group stage on Saturday with two matches on Sunday in the playoff bracket; when not playing or warming up he and his teammates acted as line judges and scorekeepers for the various games going on non-stop on four courts in an airplane hangar-like gymnasium (they were running U14, U16, and U18 divisions...all men's volleyball). Holy smoke...what an event! And the L.A. one is supposed to be a LOT bigger...I can hardly imagine.

Anyway, their team is great and pretty talented. They ended up winning their division, winning in straight sets for both of their playoff games. They were rotating liberos between Diego and another, more experienced kid (except for D and Jesus, all the other kids have been together for two or three seasons), but by Sunday's championship game it was just Diego, clearly in command, exhibiting presence and leadership on the court, making spectacular saves, picking up his teammates...all the usual "Diego" stuff. When they were down 18-9 in th second set of their first playoff match, Diego came in as a DS to serve 15 straight points and put them up 24-18...he didn't come out after that. Just great stuff from the kid. We had been contemplating trying to get to his soccer game Sunday afternoon and said we'd think about it after we saw how the morning match went...he came of the court and just said "I'm staying for the volleyball." 

[fortunately the club was playing the no-win bottom of their division and got a 4-2 result even without their captain]

But it was an exhausting weekend. Diego had a hard time getting up this morning (he still has a couple days of school before break)...though he's excited because "cousin Spencer" is picking him up from school today! Yes, my 27-year old "nephew" is back in town...all 6'1", 205# of baby-faced kid. He just finished up a year long stint of chefing at some fancy restaurant across the street from the Opera House, and now he's back in the PNW before doing another jaunt, this time in Japan (his dad's originally from Canada so he has joint citizenship and can do a work exchange on the maple leaf passport). Anyway, hanging with us all weekend at the volleyball stuff, he's taking Diego rock-climbing this afternoon (just what my kid needs...to be introduced to another recreational hobby...). Fingers-crossed that Diego doesn't fall asleep in class or on the boulder....

Hopefully, I'll get a chance to run some D&D for Spence while he's in town...I know he digs that. He's heading out to Spokane on Wednesday (Thanksgiving with his mom's mom), so our window is tight, especially with the kids' soccer practice on Tuesday. Wait, wait...just checking and it looks like they might have the night off!. All right, maybe Tuesday evening then. If we DO get our game on, I've already decided I'll be breaking out C1: The Hidden Shrine of Tamoachan...a perfect little scenario for Diego, Sofia, and Spencer.

Mmm...looking through Ye Old Blog archives, I don't see I've ever written much of anything abou Tamoachan. It's a decent enough tournament adventure...probably my favorite of all the old TSR tournament modules (looking at both the A- and C- series). I've run it at least two or three times in the past, usually with the three pre-gens designed for the scenario. It's pretty tight, design-wise, and even though it's a fairly linear gauntlet (much like the tournament portion of S1) it has a ton of flavor and a lot of interesting bits and bobs. Though, man...I don't think I've run it since the early 90s (maybe the early 2000s...?). I should probably give it a quick re-read. I have no idea how the thing holds up in my current "paradigm" of game play, but Philippe ran it at Cauldron for some folks who had a good time...it should still work for a one-off.

Other than that....

I'm working on the book. It's slow going. I started writing the section on running combat...turns out this could probably be a whole book, in and of itself. Which is not really what I want, so I probably need to rethink the section. 

It's tough. I'm trying to condense and consolidate decades of knowledge and essays into a practical guidebook that IDEALLY would have a smaller page count than any of the existing (AD&D) rulebooks. It's a rather daunting prospect. This is far less about writing "AD&D for Dummies" and more like a Strunk & White's Elements of Style. Lord, how I wish I'd studied technical writing in college. Maybe I should go back and re-read my Strunk & White...it's still on the book shelf somewhere. 

Yeah. Probably going to end up bigger than S&W.

But I am writing.  A little bit óvery day. Except when I'm at all day volleyball tournaments. But OTHERwise...one brick at a time. Just laying one brick at a time. 

*sigh*

I should be publishing a couple adventures soon, too, depending on my illustrator's time schedule. Hopefully I'll have a couple PDFs out by year's end. We'll see. December tends to fly by when you're in the midst of holiday cheer with friends and family. And  now that my brother's hash is finally settled (he was evicted on the 12th...a day before my birthday)...I need to put the sale of my mother's house into overdrive. Sofia and I might be working on that a bit the next couple days, depending on when I can borrow my buddy's junk hauler. A lot to do but it is finally getting done. Finally.

Mm.

My apologies...did not mean for this post to slide into a downer note. It's the gosh darn holiday season! And I'm excited about all the stuff I've got on my plate right now. Yes, the busy-ness is off the charts. Yes, finding time to take a breath is a challenge. BUT:

- volleyball tournaments
- guitar recitals
- holiday feasts and get-togethers
- trips to see family and friends in Mexico
- school Christmas concerts
- running D&D
- publishing adventures
- writing books
- closing my deceased mom's estate

And just listening to cheerful music as I drive around town on my various errands...man, that is all GOOD STUFF. I am enjoying myself. I am really, thoroughly enjoying myself.

And I'll admit, part of it is that I'm home in Seattle for Thanksgiving (my favorite holiday of the year) and that I get to eat some God-honest turkey for a change. I seem to be the only person in my family that craves a drumstick and a pile of apple-sausage stuffing drenched in gravy. My goodness! I am SO looking forward to Thursday!

Hope ALL of you have a happy one...I pray that all of you find some joy in season, and find a way to share that joy with others. Even a smile goes a long way this time of year.

Cheers.
: )

Tuesday, April 15, 2025

Quick Tuesday News & Notes

Spent all of yesterday doing my taxes, so I'm taking a bit of a day for myself. Apologies. Hope to post something later this week.

For the curious: our volleyball season is over. We lost in the semi-final to a very good team that received some very questionable line-judging calls from the parent/volunteer. By my count we won the first set 25-21 (rather than lost 21-25), and if that's judged differently, we go to a third set with our strongest players and a good chance to win. Maybe. They were still a very good team.

And you can call it sour grapes, but we did go to the championship on Sunday (by "we" I mean myself and half the team), and watched a game with neutral (i.e. official league ref) line judges and watched them play extremely mediocre and get beat in straight sets. To a team that (I think) we also could have handled.

Ah, well...it is what it is. We had a very good, very successful season with a group of kids (most of whom were new to the sport) who had a great time. Losing is a part of sport...a valuable part, as it helps build resilience. You don't die from a loss: you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on to the next challenge, hopefully taking a moment to glance over your shoulder at the road you just navigated for the length of the season (12 weeks for us, and a lot of victories under the belt). There's even some discussion about a couple/few of our players moving into club volleyball. Diego's one of them...though he intends to see how his soccer try-outs go first.

Volleyball. Such fun.
 
And good for the boys. Been listening to Steven Bartlett's Diary of a CEO podcast lately and I found this one with Logan Ury and Scott Galloway was really thought provoking. While it doesn't address Dungeons & Dragons or the place of fantasy RPGs in the scheme of the declining demographic of young males, it made me consider what could be the benefit of such groups (something that has been broached before by others in our community). Noisms definitely had a point with the importance of male role-models to young men...and yet, I'm NOT a humongous fan of "all dude gaming groups," finding it pretty neat/useful to have people of different genders playing/operating together in a cooperative fashion that lets all sides see others' strength and value to the collective. For me, growing up playing D&D with young women was immensely helpful...and yet, I also had the benefit of many male role models in my life (my father was around till I was seventeen, and I had male teachers, male coaches, male Scout masters, etc.). There are plenty of boys...including those I grew up with...who didn't have the same luxury. And that sad state of affairs is, it seems, becoming more common not less.

Mm. Just something I'm thinking about this week, as my own "young man" (who is now taller than his mother) is gearing up for high school. Probably I should just keep coaching.

Funny observation from coaching both boys and girls sports teams: with regard to boys, the main issue is keeping them disciplined and focused; for girls, the main issue is stoking their "competitive fire." Doesn't mean there aren't boys who are disciplined (like Diego) or girls who are fiery competitors (like Sofia), I'm just talking about "general trends." But you know what? I think one of the things that has helped BOTH my kids in this regard is the game of Dungeons & Dragons: playing D&D has forced Diego to reign back his more reckless impulses and had forced Sofia to step up and be more assertive. Yet another great reason to encourage your kids to play D&D from an early age!

*ahem*

The last thing I'll mention is that I am, indeed, working on some D&Dish stuff; ending vball, getting the taxes filed, and getting through all D's high school enrollment stuff means I suddenly have some extra "free" time. Today, I've been going through a LOT of old stuff that's been lingering in open windows on Ye Old laptop...adventures I'm writing and whatnot...and I came across this old (I mean old) post that any fan of T1 or The Temple of Elemental Evil might enjoy perusing. It's not the blog post itself, but the discussion in the comments (spearheaded by the once prolific scottsz) that is worth the read. This kind of discussion...minus all the Greyhawk-ian "lore"...is the kind of thought process I go through these days when I'm rewriting/repurposing a Hickman adventure module. Not that they don't "function" (well...) adequately for an evening's D&D entertainment. But it's possible to do a deeper dive and dig into the "why" of a thing such that it translates into stronger world building in your campaign.

Which is a VERY GOOD thing. For me, anyway. Because I'm not into superficial ("cheap") thrills when it comes to my game. Oh, it doesn't matter to me that such information will probably NEVER matter to anyone besides myself (certainly not the players!)...it helps me understand and grasp how the adventure works and how it fits with everything else going on in my game world. Which gives a comprehension of my campaign world such that I can answer any insipid questions the players come up with in a reasoned and meaningful way. Which makes me a better Dungeon Master. Hard to be a Dungeon Master if you can't even 'master' your own world.

ANYway...good post, good discussion. I'm not a Greyhawk dude, but between that, Joe Bloch, and Trent (whose new book you should take a look at if you're interested in 1E adventure material) I feel like I might want to do something with ToEE. And I have a pretty good idea what (although let me get through these other three projects first!).

Also, it may be time to revisit cosmology in my AD&D game. That should be the subject of my next blog post.  When I have the time.
; )

Monday, April 7, 2025

Wee Hours - Redux

Yes, another volleyball post. For those who are interested but, mostly, for my own enjoyment and edification.

It is again 5:30am and (again) I've been up/awake for, roughly, an hour plus. No volleyball today, but volleyball is what is on my mind. Also, I had some chocolate last night (Sunday doesn't count for the ol' Lenten fast) which might account for 4ish hours of sleep. Maybe. Playoff volleyball carries its own hyper-stimulation.

Some context: as a Catholic school (of course my kids go to Catholic school) we play in the CYO (Catholic Youth Organization) league of the Seattle Archdiocese. The vast majority of teams we play against are our fellow Catholic schools (CYO allows the occasional secular private school to participate also), so many of these schools are teams we see many times over the years, in various sports. Schools have rivalries; schools have reputations. And schools have strengths and weaknesses (by class). 

Our school is a small one...tiny. My son's class size is 17...eight boys and nine girls. Our parish has a vibrant Latino community thanks to its offering of bi-lingual (Spanish) services...one of the reasons my wife and I chose this parish for our family, besides its close proximity to our home. However, the majority of the Latino families send their children to public schools rather than our school, despite the fact our school offers Spanish language class from kindergarten through 8th grade (another reason we chose to enroll our children).

To say that our school is NOT known for athletics would be a gross understatement. These days (i.e. unlike in my youth) CYO is very interested in giving all students an opportunity to play sports, and as such schools are allowed to partner together with other schools (or simply have their students join larger schools) in order to play sports. My son has played CYO soccer since kindergarten, but he has not played under his own school's name since 5th grade (when they shifted from 7v7 to 9v9); in basketball, he's NEVER played for his own school (there are only four boys in the class that play). Same with cross country and track. It is what it is.

That we were able to put together a full volleyball roster is...amazing. Last year we had a combined team of 7th graders and 8th graders. All three of my 7th grade players returned this year, and they brought three of their five classmates. The one 7th grader from St. Matthew's (another small parish) that played last year also returned, and we got one new 8th grader (Jesus) who attends the parish but doesn't attend the school proper. Finally, we are once again including 7th graders on our (8th grade) roster with two from our own school and one from St. Benedict's...a traditional partner school of ours that is even smaller. None of these new boys had ever played team volleyball before this year.

When last I wrote, we we were about to play our penultimate regular season game against a hated rival; I'll call them "AB." Hated is a pretty strong word, but they are a school with an obnoxious reputation (in sports) and a rather unlikeable coach who has a tendency to jump out of her seat (not allowed under the league regulations) and yells instructions to her team continuously throughout matches. The team is large in size and numbers (a maxed out 15 man roster), and tends to get by on their athleticism. We played them on their home court with a biased referee (an alum of the school) and we lost...mostly (IMO) from us losing our cool over questionable calls. They finished 7-1 and #2 in the Northern division while we finished #3 after beating (what I considered to be) the best team in our division in the final week of the season (a team who had been undefeated in play before we beat them...their only other loss coming by forfeit when most of their players were taking a high school placement test for Seattle Prep).

So, at 6-2 (our only other loss being in the first week...mostly due to nerves...against last year's champ and the eventual #1 seed of our division), we entered the playoffs this weekend. Single elimination. Our first game was on Saturday and (as with all playoff games) was played at a neutral site (St. Louise in Bellevue) with League official scorekeepers and referees. The last time we had been in that gymnasium was last year, for our first (and last) playoff game of last season...a game in which my son injured himself making a diving save (scoring the point!) before having to be carried off the court. He sprained his MCL that day, which caused him to miss soccer tryouts for his club team (and was subsequently cut/sent down to a lower division) and prevented him from most athletics till July. 

ANYway...we won (against the #5 seed from the South division) in straight sets 2-0. 

Which set up yesterday's (Sunday's) quarter-final game against AB at 5:30pm in West Seattle.

The players were pretty keyed up...as you might imagine. Excited to be playing, fired up to avenge their earlier loss, a little worn out from a long-weekend (not only did we play Saturday, but this was the weekend of our school's Spring Musical...which has all middle school kids participating. Most of our players came directly from the Sunday "matinee" performance). Some were tense just from the drive to West Seattle in the pouring rain (there was pickup truck accident on the West Seattle bridge that is never helpful). Nathan was out sick. Herbert wasn't going to make it by game time. That kind of thing.

I said to them: "You guys ever watch sports movies?" Yeah. "You know how there's always a hero team and a jerk team that gets its comeuppance at the end? Well, today's our movie day when we knock off the jerks." That settled them down and fired 'em up.

While the rules of volleyball are pretty straightforward (best two out of three sets, first two sets to 25, third to 15, rally scoring, sets must be won by two points), the method of tracking scores is fairly intricate, as there are specific rules/procedures for serves and substitutions. In addition, CYO has specific rules with regard to participation and playing time (all players must serve at least once, all players must play at least 25% of the game). None of this is a problem for us (my wife is our scorekeeper), but it's cool because these intricate score cards allow me to recreate the game as they played out. Here's how yesterday's game went:

Coaches and captains met with the ref. Our captains for today were Diego (my son) and Atticus. Atticus is, perhaps, the nicest, kindest kid in class and is (definitely) the least competitive. He is good at volleyball (he was one of my players last year) but he plays it because its fun and he likes his friends (he plays no other competitive sports). He has also begged me all season NOT to make him a captain (captains on the court are the ONLY people allowed to address the ref during games and are responsible for having their players ordered and lined-up). I told Atticus after our win Saturday that he would be a captain against AB, no "but-but-buts" about it. Before the game I told him: "I am empowering you to be a leader with your kindness. You make sure our team is being kind to each other, and kind to the other team. Help them stay out of the whole drama that comes with playing this AB team...that's your job as the captain." He understood. As the "away" (lower seeded) team, he called the coin toss, which we won, and...as I always do...we deferred serve till the second set. 

We returned their serve to score the first point but immediately gave it back with our first server, Judah. They scored a point before we won a rally (making it 2-2), then gave it back again (Diego's serve), another exchange, then Evan got an extra point before they rallied, we exchanged again, and immediately gave it back after Atticus's serve. The game sitting at 5-5. They then served five in a row before we rallied, but an immediate exchange (Jesus serving) followed by a point put us down 12-6. I then subbed in Herbert for Evan.

Evan is the shyest, quietest kid on our the team...he has literally said less than 10 words to me all season (in practices or games). Maybe six words? And yet, he has the main role in the musical and I watched this kid rattling off plenty of memorized lines along with (not very tuneful) singing. He's one of our taller players, but he lacks quickness, decisiveness, and agility. He plays soccer to be with his friends but he's generally a bench player. Herb, on the other hand, is a 7th grader who plays premier soccer (same club as my son but a year behind) and is used to high level competition. Neither have played volleyball before but they both bring their own strengths: Evan, who's been taking tennis lessons, is one of our most consistent servers, while Herb has raw athleticism and competitive fire.

They score another point (13-6) and I call timeout. I check in with them, remind them there's no time limit, make sure they're calm, deep breaths, locked in. They rally and Ryan scores a point before we exchange and the gap is narrowed to six.

We immediately rally to make it 14-9 and then Judah, our gentle giant from St. Matt's parish, gives us 10, 11, and 12. He's going under-hand today, not trusting his nerves (6'3", bespectacled kid who's actually homeschooled, the Panther kids have embraced him since last year). I consider subbing him out after the exchange (like Evan, he's one of our slower backline players) but decide to let it ride. They score another point before we exchange and now the score is only 16-13.

Then its time for "Nails" to step in: my son, the Capricorn, has icewater in his veins (you should see him take PKs). He serves up 14, 15, and 16 to tie the score. Then he serves up 17 to take the lead and the AB coach calls timeout. I check in with our players...they are locked, they are solid, they've been here before. We would scrimmage our 8th grade girls back at the beginning of the season and routinely go down 8 or 10 points and have to claw our way back. This is what we do.

And now the crowd is chanting from the bleachers on the opposite side. "Let's go Panthers!" (*boom*boom*boom*) "Let's go Panthers!" (*boom*boom*boom). I have never heard this before at an elementary school event. Not volleyball, not basketball, not anything. It's rather incredible.

The timeout ends, the crowd goes silent (viewers are REQUIRED to be silent during serves). Diego scores another point to put us up 18-16 (thunderous applause) and then the exchange. 

The ref awards a point to AB for a bad switch in the front row (we use designated setters: Jesus and Diego for this set), and they score another to get to 19, but we win the next rally and we know we have them on the ropes. I sub Evan back onto the court to serve...no need to call time. Evan goes 20, 21, 22, 23 and the AB coach calls timeout. I was told later (I wasn't paying any attention) that she was actually yelling at and berating her players on the court. That's her deal, not mine. I told the team: two points...we just need a rally and a serve and we can move on to the next set. "Or," I said to Evan with a smile, "two more serves. If you want to." Evan said nothing (he never does), but he smiled and he gave me two more serves and we closed it out 25-19.

The tale of the second set was much the same, so I'll be quicker with the telling. They went up 6-1 to start before we got into our rhythm, but at 11-6 I subbed Ryan in for Nicolas. Nicolas is a big guy (tall, not fat) who has good instincts, but his feet are stuck in mud...it doesn't help that he misses practices for ice hockey (his other sport). Ryan, my son's best friend, is the shortest kid on the team (shorter than Diego) but has the biggest mouth (it runs non-stop)...a club basketball player, he's got excellent quickness and agility and is a ferocious competitor. We rally and Jesus takes over.

When we heard we were getting a new kid named "Jesus" this year, the kids joked "Jesus will save us!" When he missed the first two/three weeks of practice we wondered if he'd ever show up...and after missing so much work, there was some grumbling that "He better know how to play volleyball." Well he does, and he's the best overall player on the team. Only slightly taller than Diego (i.e. not that tall) he's stout and athletic and LOVES volleyball (his whole family is into the sport). Sporting long, "beautiful" hair (as described by one parent the other day), when he's on, he's on. He may be even more competitive than my son (the only other person I've seen with tears after a loss). 

Jesus serves us up to 10 before AB calls a timeout, desperate. The crowd is chanting again now (I believe it was Jesus's family that started the chants...Mexicans, go figure). There's not much for me to do or say during the timeout besides "finish strong." Jesus takes us up to 14, before they rally. 

They get back to 16, but I don't panic. Herbert serves and we exchange. I put Nicolas back in for Ryan (I want Nicolas to serve; he's consistent), Logan exchanges, they exchange, Nicolas serves up 18 and 19 to take the lead, then back to them where they take the lead to 20, before another exchange ties it up and Kieran comes in. 

Kieran is about as stereotypical an Irish Catholic kid as you see. He's got the red hair and freckles, he was born on St. Patrick's day, he acted as both an altar server and Eucharistic Minister at Mass the night before (I know...we were there and he gave me Communion). He comes from a musical family and plays multiple instruments...for school Masses he accompanies the choir on the piano. While he's done a lot of swimming in the past and is coordinated, this is the first time EVER that he has played on any competitive sports team. He can get a little "adrenalized" in these games.

He hits an overhand rocket that nearly goes out of bounds...he is obviously amped up. He takes a big step back and sends in another huge shot that nearly kills some poor kid. Now our whole bench is laughing. "What did Kieran have for breakfast this morning?" Ryan says: "We're going to storm the court!" I say: "Don't you dare." Ryan, on the bench is yelling at Kieran to move back, as he continues to put a heavy dose of mustard on his shots. We hit 23 and the AB coach calls a timeout. "We just need a serve and a rally," is all I need to say. They smile. They know. It's all over but the shouting (or chanting, in this case). "You feeling it a bit today, Kieran?" I joke, and he chuckles...he's practically floating.

He gets to 24 before they return one, Diego sets to Herbert who spikes into the net (probably Herb's only missed spike of the game) and AB gets the ball back. 

But it doesn't matter. They serve, Nicolas bumps it up in the air, Diego sets it beautifully to Jesus who spikes it off the head of some poor kid in the front row...an exclamation point on a team that could have been disqualified (under CYO rules) for their coach's antics in the playoff game the day before (we stayed to watch after we finished Saturday). I told the coach of that team, "We'll get 'em for you tomorrow." And we did.  Then we cheered 'em out and shook hands and I told the boys we'd have normal practice this week (ahead of our semi-final match next Saturday), now that the musical was over and we could use our gym again (last week we were practicing at a different school...not ideal).

Ah, sports. So fun, so exhilarating. Probably not as exciting to read about as to watch in person, but writing it up helps me remember the experience, the emotion, the stress, the joy. For the rest of the day, it's pretty much all my family talked about...but we get excited about sport. Not everyone does. 

But boy, the parents of these kids are sure having fun this year.
; )

There are only four teams left, and they are all exceptional teams. I had the chance to watch all of them play on Sunday and take their measure:

St. Al/John: a two school combo that always partners together. While most school's would choose to field one large team (like AB does), St. Al/John's has taken the "interesting" approach of fielding two small teams, one of which is stocked with their best athletes. This is their "A" team; an eight-man squad, they won the 7th grade championship last year (when we were playing up a grade) and at 7-1 were the top team in the North division. They handed us our first loss of the season, mainly due to nerves (I felt we were the better team, but it was our first game and we had a lot of "frozen" players) on the court. I figured they were pretty fraudulent as their record was pumped up playing the bottom-feeders (their only loss was to a 4-4 team)...however, watching them play yesterday, it's clear they have improved steadily over the course of the season. Very tough.

Holy Rosary Seattle: a team stocked with what appears to be varsity basketball players; tall, strong, athletic kids. They were only #3 in the South division, but maybe they lost games because their players were out playing club hoop tournaments? They are a little "exuberant"...their hammer serves fly over the back line nearly as often as they land in, and they mistime many of their spikes, hitting net on easy lay-ups...but this is the kind of team that, if they get rolling and 'in the zone,' they can steamroller teams. I have been told they were the runners-up last year and have a bone to pick with St. Al/John; their head coach is an old codger who looks like he was coaching volleyball since before I was born. 

St. Anthony: the #1 seed out of the South division, and the only 8-0 team. A team composed of mainly Filipino and Southeast Asian kids (judging from the last names on their jerseys), this is an extremely well-coached, well-disciplined team. A fifteen player roster, they have three coaches, and run a circuit training warm up in small groups. Very coordinated teamwork...they lack height and athleticism (they only have two kids I'd qualify as "athletes" on their team) but they run designated setters, outside hitters with a decoy in the middle, and they are all consistent servers (at least two or three with a good jumping overhand). They are the "death by a thousand mistakes" team...they build up a lead based on your errors and woe betide you if you're sloppy and give up easy points. Their main setter is a skinny blonde kid with a wicked left-handed overhand serve; their best athlete is the coach's kid and is basically a mini Jesus with a jump serve. Watched them demolish another playoff team 25-15 and wasn't even as close as that score looks...just no shot for a "playoff" team trying to get by on size, athleticism, and hard serves. Obviously a good team with good chemistry (a lot of love for each other); really, their only Achilles heel, besides a lack of athletes, is they struggle to dig. But they are as patient as Job, and they will wear you down...quickly...if you're not on your game.

We play St. Anthony's...in Bellevue again...on Saturday. If we win, we play the other semi-final winner in the championship at Blanchet high school, in our neighborhood, on our turf (Diego will be attending BBHS next year...it's five minutes from our home). 

All right. I think all that's out of my system now. Time for a nap.

[post momentarily interrupted by the need to get kids off to school]



Saturday, March 22, 2025

Wee Hours

It's 5:40am. I've been up for about an hour. Been awake since about an hour before that.

Cutting the booze and sugared goodies out of my diet (Lenten resolutions) certainly helps my energy level. But I'm pretty fiery at the moment...pretty fired up. Energized...a live wire.

It's volleyball day.

Our team is rolling through the season. Five wins in a row, two games left to play before the playoffs. Today's game will be the second toughest opponent in our division...a perennial rival of the school when it comes to sporting events. We went out to support the girls team last week and stuck around to scout the boys in preparation for today's match. They're no great shakes: a bunch of big kids with the same hairstyle who get by on their athleticism and some questionable calls from their home line-judge (need to make sure we're on the correct side of the court today).

I'm not terribly worried about losing the game today...losing could be a good check on my players' egos. I'd rather lose this one then our next game (which will be against the toughest team in our division). But if we do win today...which we should...I don't think we'll lose another game this year. Which is my preference, of course: I'm not really into the exhilaration of close, heart-attack inducing, knife edge victories. I'd rather just dominate, shake hands, and go home.

For our little school...that has a tiny trophy case and hasn't won shit in YEARS...it would be a tremendous feather in the cap to bring home the championship. But for the players? I want this so badly for them. For them to be able to say: yeah, we did that. No, it doesn't mean they'll go on to play in the Olympics or cure cancer or get elected President or anything. But it's unquestionably something that you'll cherish in your heart, years from now...as an adult, reflecting on the past victories (and failures and oh-so-close moments) of your youth.

This I know. I know it from my own experience as an old geezer, and I know it from talking to other old codgers. Little things like this stick in your brain...highlights between years of "stuff" that's faded into the grey malaise of lost memory.

Especially this group. Especially with the way they're doing it. The misfits. The "try-hards." The nerds.

In my youth, I would have fit very well on this team. 

I want them to have that photograph in the trophy case so bad. Not a runner-up prize, not a second place finish. A championship. Because they are champions...just to come out and work hard and be good teammates to each other and to play damn good volleyball. I am so proud of each and every one of them. Even the goof-offs and screw-ups that fight each other in practice. Because when they come together on the court, they are one team, one entity. Just Panthers...the team in black. I want them to have that recognition...because it will leave a lasting impression in their hearts of what they can accomplish when they put aside their differences and complaints and come together with a single purpose.

That's a valuable lesson...one I wish I'd learned in my youth. My life, my journey...good as it has been...would have been a lot happier and more joyful along the way.

But it is sport (he writes as he wipes the tears from his eyes and refills the coffee cup), and the finality of sport is that sometimes you lose and sometimes you get bounced from the playoffs in the first round. Sometimes the other team plays better than you on a given day. Sometimes the other team IS better than you. And you have to understand that and accept that and take defeat with as much grace as you can muster. Because the real, hard truth is that life goes on (until it doesn't) and...win or lose...you've got to get up on Monday and go to school or work again. The daily grind goes on, regardless of the high highs and low lows that occur in our lives. 

Which isn't to say sport and competition is useless in the grand scheme of life...quite the contrary! What we learn in sport...especially bits like teamwork, focus, practice habits, effort, consistency, gracefulness (in both victory and defeat)...is directly applicable to our day-to-day lives. Especially team sport...learning to get along with different people with different personalities, different backgrounds, different skin colors, different tax brackets, different talent levels...this is incredibly important. It is one of the most important lessons we can learn for the rest of our lives. One of the main reasons I volunteer to coach these teams is to make sure I impart that lesson to my own kids.

Well, that AND because I'm an insufferably competitive gamer.
; )

Okay, it's 6:40 (6:38 actually). I might try closing my eyes for 30 minutes before I wake everyone. Sofia's volleyball game at 9am (in Edmonds), Diego's at 11, then we're going to a teammate's birthday/pizza party (he invited the entire v-ball team), then Diego's soccer in the afternoon. A full day ahead of us.

Hope everyone has a great weekend. Thanks for letting me share what's on my mind.




Friday, April 19, 2024

On Winning

 For one, brief moment...in this moment...I feel like I'm on top of things.

This is not a very common feeling for me; so much of the time I feel like I'm running behind...like I'm constantly trying to do the bare minimum to tread water or stay afloat or get just enough done so that things don't completely fall apart. It's like the pressure (I imagine) of going into the 9th inning of a ball game with a one run lead...you're winning, but it's a struggle to make sure you don't give up the tying (or go ahead!) run, knowing that you'll be batting the bottom of your order against a really good closer if you somehow screw things up.

Or something like that.

At this moment, I'm feeling comfortable. To continue the baseball analogy, this morning feels like we're in the 4th inning and have a five run lead. Yes, there's still ball to be played...several innings worth...but for the moment, we're taking a breather, cruising a little bit. It's not so imperative to press at the moment...it's not so necessary to hold on for dear life. 

I savor these moments: they're few and far between, and they don't last. Tomorrow, for example, is Saturday and we have a soccer game at 9am (Sofia), a playoff volleyball game at 2pm in Bellevue (Diego), and 5pm Mass in Shoreline for the anniversary of my mother's death. On Sunday we'll be hosting Sofia's birthday party (I'll be picking up cupcakes at 10am), Diego's golf at 11ish (unless he skips it for Sofia's party) possibly another playoff volleyball game at 1pm (if we win Saturday), plus a flag football game at 5pm, and (hopefully) dinner reservations in the evening. And sometime between now and tomorrow, I have to pick up supplies and such for the party, and it would probably help to get her a gift of some sort...tricky since the kids get out of school at noon today.

This moment is simply the calm before the storm.

Sometimes, I wonder at how games like Dungeons & Dragons...complex games that take time and effort to master...were ever invented, let alone became popular. Because they WERE popular when I was a kid; popular enough, anyway, that most kids had at least heard of D&D (and, thus, their parents), even if they hadn't played the game. We had sports and school and church and stuff, too, back in the 1980s but we seemed to have far more time for playing D&D then we do now. Hell, we had more time for a LOT of stuff that my kids don't seem to have: bike riding and camping trips and books...man, I read so many books in my youth. So many.

But I know what's different now: we live in the Age of the Screen. The television, the game console, the laptop, the smart phone, the streaming services...all things the eat up the time. 

Yes, of course they offer plenty of convenience and time-saving: my wife only needs to go into an office twice per week, I can write books while parked on my couch, birthday parties can be stocked via Amazon orders and bills can be paid without needing to write checks and place them in the mail. No need to take cooking classes or higher handy-people when How-To videos abound for free on the internet.

And, yet, the screen is mesmerizing, hypnotic, consuming. I can waste hours over the course of the day reading wikipedia entries or streaming useless videos on worthless subject matter. My family can (and does) spend hours of our "free" time watching television shows in the evenings and filling "empty" moments on the weekends. My kids will (when allowed) blow hours of their childhood lives playing nonsensical video games, rather than exercising their own creativity and imagination...and they fail, so often (so, so often) at any sort of self-direction outside of using a game console or screen device for game play. 

At least the weather is getting nicer and I know they will (of their own volition) spend more time in the yard, playing football and baseball and badminton. But indoors, when the sun goes down or the rain comes out? It's back on the screens, more often than not, rather than choosing something NON-screen related. Unless I am there and available for them.

This was not the case in my youth: we had only one screen (the television) and it had less than a half-dozen channels. When my parents were unavailable (which was MOST of the time), my brother and I were forced to entertain ourselves: reading, playing, gaming, or just making shit up. I feel like we even talked more...with each other, with our friends...but perhaps that's a false memory. My kids certainly talk with us (parents) a LOT, if not each other, and there were plenty of times I was absorbed in some book or other rather than engaging with my brother. 

Yeah, that one's probably inaccurate. 

*sigh*

I sat down to write an article "On Winning" and its turned into the usual Old Man Yelling At Clouds post. I am getting to be a geezer, darn it...just in case there wasn't already enough evidence of that. Mm. Let's try to salvage something:

With regard to volleyball, I wrote back in February that youth sports are a wonderfully safe way for kids to learn how to fail, building character calluses that will give them some durability against the future blows life deals out. I also wrote that I expected a lot of failure this season and hoped that it would still be both fun and useful.

Well, it turns out we've had much less failure then I anticipated. The players have been eminently coachable, and the amount of effort and athleticism they've squeezed from their bodies is simply remarkable. We have, for the most part, been under-sized and under-manned in every single game we've played (the sole exception was against a team comprised entirely of 7th graders playing up a year) and still managed to roll out enough victories to be playoff eligible. Every single player on our squad of nine is lacking in one or more key areas: size, speed, skill, confidence, discipline, jumping, serving. And yet they compensate for each others' weak ares and they are scrappy as hell; even the games we've lost (with one exception) have been "tough outs" for our opponents. 

I am immensely proud of them (in case you hadn't guessed). They are playing their best volleyball right now, at the end of the season, and they are excited and eager to play more, to win, in the playoffs. 

And this is the other wonderful thing about youth sports: when it's working, it should be building kids' confidence and sense of self. Team sports, especially, are useful as players find ways to contribute to the team's overall success: yes, some players are stronger than others, but everyone gets their moment to shine. Everyone can celebrate their teammates' individual victories; everyone can be there to support each other in hard moments (and know they have that support). It is so easy to get kids...young, impressionable humans...to gel as a cohesive unit, when you give them an opportunity to play and have an objective for their focus. School pride, for example, or a championship run.

Again, old edition D&D is much like this. Players are a team of disparate individuals, each with their own strengths and weaknesses, and yet each necessary and valuable contributors to the team's success. And when they are successful...working with and for each other, picking each other up, doing their own part...that success breeds enthusiasm and energy, eagerness and engagement. All rallied around - and directed towards - a common, shared goal or objective.

Coaching and DMing aren't all that different. In both cases, my work mainly consists of opening my players' eyes so that they SEE what it is they're doing and why. To help them understand the value of both themselves AND their teammates. To FOCUS them so that they can be successful, together, despite their differences.

There is, sadly, not enough of this in our world today (yes, yes, the curmudgeonly opinion of one old geezer). For my own kids, it's important (to me) that I wring out every last drop...for their sake.

Happy Friday, folks.
: )

Thursday, February 15, 2024

On Losing

The kids have finished basketball season and have started volleyball (soccer, of course, continues year round). For both this is their first year of the sport.

Volleyball for boys remains very niche...in high school, I don't believe there is a boys volleyball league (at least not in King County). So far as I know, my son and his 7th grade teammates will have only two years to compete for their school with a chance of winning trophies. Maybe. There are only three boys from his class that signed up to play, and so we are combined with the 8th graders (who only had five) and are playing up a year.

Oh. And the school asked me to coach the team. Because (I guess) there weren't any other parents up for coaching boys volleyball (unlike during basketball when they had THREE coaches).

*sigh*

SO...I haven't played volleyball since I was in the 8th grade. Turns out there have been a lot of rule changes since 1987; I've been learning these (outside of coaching) the last couple weeks. Practices have been going well but our team is...rough. I mean, my own kid can barely reach over the 7' practice net, and the game net is going to be 6" higher. As with the basketball squad, our most athletic kids aren't the tallest. And this is the first year playing for ANY of the kids (outside of gym class). My confidence is none too high.

And yet, that's okay. Because one of the great benefits of youth sports (in addition to exercise and skill development and team building and teaching sportsmanship, etc.) is that they give kids a safe space to fail. Failing in the sports arena happens...blowing plays, losing, these things happen in sports. And kids get to experience that, and then experience that it doesn't kill you. It doesn't end your life, neither literally, nor figuratively. There's always another game to play, another play to be made. Part of MY job (as a coach) is to drive this home to the kids...so that they can be with the failure, yet still respond to it constructively.

It's important for kids to learn this lesson. Because later on in life, shit happens...loss happens...all the time. You get laid off from your job. Your spouse leaves you. Someone totals your car. Your basement gets flooded or your roof torn off by a hurricane. You (or a loved one) gets diagnosed with cancer. All sorts of trials and tribulations...some of our own making and some outside our control. And we are forced to respond to those trials and tribulations. There are all sorts of ways we fail in life; all sorts of way we take a loss. 

And how do we respond to it? What do we do about it? How do we roll with the punches?

A person's character is built over many years and many experiences. People can and do change their behaviors. But, man o man, there is a LOT about me, about my personality, that is much the same as it was when I was in my middle school years. Many of my bad habits were certainly acquired then, if not earlier. 

[not the drinking (thankfully) but definitely my tendency towards over-indulgence is a good example]

So allowing kids the chance to fail (yes, even these 13-14 year olds are "kids," despite being bigger/taller than me and having more mustache) is a GOOD thing. Get them losing, from a young age, is a good thing. Character building. Hopefully. Maybe (perhaps they've already had their personalities set, as mine was). Well, regardless...the experience should (I believe) be useful.

And I expect quite a bit of failure this season.

As an aside, I will note that old edition Dungeons & Dragons is ALSO a "safe place" for kids to experience (and learn from) failure, loss, and hardship. Playing D&D isn't quite as visceral as playing sports, but that's balanced (IMO) by a larger use of the mind, creative juices, imagination, etc. Personally, I find both sports AND gaming to be fun and valuable, and I encourage kids to partake in (or, at least, try) BOTH activities. 

Okay, that's enough. Time to start doing the taxes.
; )

Monday, September 13, 2021

Sports Stuff

I know I said I was going to write about D&D stuff, and I am, but there's just so much to write about that I'm not sure where I want to start...and I don't want to just barf a bunch of randomness all over a single blog post.

So to buy myself some time (to formulate my thoughts) and to get a little bit of a handle on the blogging, I'm going to write about some sporty stuff (mostly personal and/or Seattle-based). It will be fairly short, I think. Or not. Maybe.

First: the Mariners. I am not watching Mariners baseball right now, even though they're only 2 or 3 games out of a wild card spot and playing some fairly clutch ball (well, they were until they dropped 2 of 3 to a historically bad Diamondbacks team). I'm keeping track, but I just don't have time to sit down for three hours a game with very real probability of having my heart broken by a team that has disappointed for twenty years. Twenty years! You'd think they would have lucked into a playoff game in that time...you have to really try to be that poor/mediocre. I have been wearing my M's cap (to cover my bald head) because they are still over .500. But I have been in "show me" mode for the last few years, and that hasn't changed. Yes, I am a literal "fair weather fan:" I enjoy going to the park when the weather is sunny and beautiful (and when there isn't a pandemic). But I am not going to live and die by the ball club who's given so little as far as results are concerned. Not when there's so much else to watch.

[and, yes, I am all-but-convinced that the new ballpark was built on top of some ancient Salish burial ground and the team is cursed. Cursed! I say!]

What other things? Well how about the NFL? Hey, folks: there are D&D nerds...and there are football nerds. I, of course, am both. Fantasy football is just as nerdy and ridiculous as any tabletop gaming...(as my sporty buddies will freely admit)...it's just been better monetized. The last few years, I haven't played it, but this year I decided it was time to introduce my FAMILY to fantasy football. So we started a four-team league for just us: wife, kids, and me. They (the rest of my family) have never played fantasy football, so we've spent the last few days (I just started it up Thursday afternoon...on a whim) totally geeking out with drafts and trades and waiver wire pick-ups and roster moves. My 7-year old daughter has soccer practice tonight, but she's on the edge of her seat to see if Lamar Jackson (her QB) can get her 50+ points to pull out a win (good luck with that).

The Seahawks looked great, by the way. But then, their defense played against a woefully depleted Colts offense. And Chris Carson will be lucky to last the whole season with his running style (91 yards on the ground, 72 yards after contact!). Besides, they still need to win the west and ALL the NFC West teams looked good (49ers, Rams, and Cards dominated every game). Fortunately, we weren't bitten by many injuries. Cautiously optimistic for the season.

The Seattle Kraken drop the puck September 26th. NHL hockey, y'all. Still need to research what the hell "icing" is. It's been a few years since I last attended a T-birds game (like, since, the 20th century) and it was mostly about chanting for the fights.

And then there's soccer...glorious soccer.

The USMNT finally got a win in World Cup qualifiers, only after Berhalter deigned to replace the high profile European stars with MLS stand-outs. Funny how players who play IN their own country seem to have more fire, energy, and passion when it comes to playing FOR their country. Whatever. *sigh* 

[I will not rant I will not rant I will not rant I will not...]

Sounders got another win. That's great. Over projected-Most-Awesome-Minnesota-super-star team (again). Even better. And did it without the guys who've been playing on their international squads. Helped to have our #1 goalie back (finally) from his injury. Steph looked great. Should be a nice run-up to the season's finish. 

And then, of course, there were my own kids' games: the team I coached (boy's school team) was thoroughly overmatched and dominated on Saturday. The final score was 6-1, only because the other team stopped trying to score on us in the second half. The coach (me) turned out to be the guy with the most "rust;" I did not put my players in a position to succeed. And to be fair, half our "5th grade team" is made up of fourth graders (7 out of 16) and most of the team doesn't even know A) positions or B) their teammates' names. "You're going in for Lucas!" "Who's that?" "The guy playing midfield!" "What's a midfielder?" Ai-yi-yi. It was a rough outing; Diego ripped off his jersey in disgust at the end. 

We have a LOT of work to do this coming week.  

[D then proceeded to get beat 3-0 his premier game, though that was more bad luck (and some poor play from normally reliable players) than any kind of "domination"]

Finally, my daughter Sofia played her first club soccer game on Sunday, and I got to be amazed at just how much she's grown in skill over the last few weeks. Wow. They only had 6 players show up for a 7v7 game, and decided to play a man (*ahem* lady) down rather than forfeit against a team that brought 12. My daughter is one of two 7-year olds on a team that ranges up to age 9, and she tracked the entire field with, quite frankly, astonishing effort, energy, and determination. I completely underestimated the reserves of strength she has within her. They lost 4-0, but their goalie saved about 20, and Sofia's track back ability from a forward position (she often beat her own defenders) aided a lot of those saves.

I don't mention my daughter as much as my boy on this blog, for a couple reasons. One is the blog's main subject matter (gaming) which my son is far more invested in than my daughter. The second is so much of our (family's) time has been taken by my son's activities (he's older, so he does more). But while both my children have great depths to them, Sofia has (I think) far deeper, more mysterious depths. Her imagination, creativity, inventiveness, and humor are profound, and different from Diego's intellectual precision. Both children take after both their parents but Diego takes all the "surface stuff:" the fiery emotions, the competitiveness, the sharp mind and grasp of concepts. Sofia has all the hidden stuff: the fears, the darkness, the inner resolve, the secretiveness, the independence. Diego cares so much about his identity in the world and how others view him. Sofia cares about what she cares about...those things that matter to her, the rest of the world be damned!

[Hmm, I suppose they pretty much match their astrological signs...or I am viewing them through my "astrologer's lens" which is something I haven't done in a while. Interesting]

But, okay, that's enough of that...I am straying far afield from my topic of sports. It's just a lot on the mind these days: each of my kids play on two teams. One has practice five days per week (with games on the weekend); the other has practice three days per week (with games on the weekend). Even without the distraction of...well, everything...it's a lot to continually process and coordinate, mentally and physically. 

My dog is snoring on the couch next to me. Tough morning, huh, Chewb?

All right, things to do. Next post will be about gaming. I'll try to start writing it this afternoon.

Wednesday, August 11, 2021

Winning and Losing

The abuelos left town Monday night and as of yesterday are back, safe and sound (if a little sad) in Orizaba, my wife's hometown. We were able to "zoom" with them while watching the Sounders kick the heck out of Leon in in the inter-League cup quarterfinals. 

[no, we didn't end up watching game shows last night...nor did I grill. Cooked up a big old slab of corned beef brisket with garlic roasted red potatoes and asparagus on the side and a heaping helping of steamed green beans. Good stuff]

Sad as it is to see them gone, it means that a lot of our lives are back to normal (well, the "new normal"): less road trips, more cooking in, less visits to local breweries, more gaming. Blood Bowl is back on the table.

Literally. It's exploded all over my dining room table.

Last night featured the wood elves (Diego) versus the orks (me) in the first game of our "mini-BB World Cup." It was pretty tight and hard fought...my wife at one point called from the other room, "Take it easy on him!" My son and I just looked at each other and guffawed. 

"Mom, he can't take it easy on me...I'm winning!" However, the laughter was at even the suggestion that anyone would be 'going easy.'

Another dead elf is a
poor substitute for a TD.
Well, he did end up winning in the end...the wood elves' "prayers to their barky god" seemed to have been answered. But I gave it a good go. I got the tying touchdown in the last minutes of regulation to make the score 2-to-2. We decided to play overtime, and by the end of the match there were only three wood elves left on the pitch (two K.O.'d and seven outright casualties). Against the full might of my squad, he just managed to dislodge the ball from my ork blitzer just four squares from the end line, and in his last turn of the match, pulled off a desperate maneuver that would allow him to win the game on a Long Bomb throw to a standing wardancer in the opposite endzone. This required multiple dodges, multiple "go for it rolls," and an incredible pass-n-catch...all without re-rolls...with one turn left to succeed. Amazingly, the elves managed to get just about everything right.

Then they fumbled the pass.

So, overtime ended and the game was decided on "penalty kicks" (I'm not sure GW really understands how Gridiron football works), which in BB means both players roll a D6 and whoever scores higher gets the win. I rolled a 1; Diego rolled a 2. Absolute joyful pandemonium (on the part of my child) ensues.

I bring this up in light of yesterday's post on fudging dice rolls. Noisms had a good take on the subject today with regard to the difficulty people have being objective when it comes to things they care about: it's damn tough. I love my children: it gives me no joy to see them crestfallen and unhappy when results aren't as expected, not even if I'm winning (at their expense). And my son, especially, who becomes VERY emotionally invested and is generally hyper-competitive...well, he really wanted to "fudge" that last die roll to complete the pass. "Wait - I didn't roll right! Wait - the die hit the box at the wrong angle! Wait...!"

As such, we have pretty strict house rules regarding dice rolls in my home. All dice are rolled inside an empty box top; once they're rolled, it's done. Dice that bounce OUT of the box requires the whole result to be rerolled (even if one die lands IN the box). Once the dice come to a rest it's done. And only one set of dice are rolled at a time (with no other person's dice being allowed in the box during the roll). These firm strictures (which we use for ALL our games: D&D, Monopoly, Blood Bowl, etc.) are well understood and prevent any disagreements over dice results.

And it prevents me from fudging dice rolls in my kids' favor. Because I want them to win...I like watching them win. But you can't win all the time and losing, while hard, can be good for you. Not only can it help you learn and grow from your mistakes, but it is humbling, and most of us could use a bit more humility in our lives. It's also good preparation for future losses; we watched a LOT of Little League baseball the last couple months, and while the Spring season saw a lot of wins, the Summer ball had nothing BUT losses (the latter team was, frankly, terrible). And the All-Star tournament in-between? Ooo...that was a rough one.

Losing, of course, also helps one appreciate the wins more...hell, it even helps appreciate the ties more. D's summer ball team was so bad they didn't even get a tie till the final game (the game had to end because of the time), and man were those kids ecstatic!

I was reflecting on this a bit (duh), and I came to the idea that perhaps one key component that's missing for some folks (who might be proponents of "fudging") is quantity of play. After all, if you play a LOT of a particular game (any game) you'll see lots of wins and losses. If you roll lots of dice, you'll see plenty of "hot streaks" and "cold streaks." Last night I saw plenty of both in our game...my stupid-stupid troll continuously rolled "1s" for his stupid roll and did almost nothing the entire game...meanwhile, every time I landed a block with one of my blitzers, a wood elf would end up folding like a paper hat (landing that block was tough, though). 

[for the most part, though, my dice were pretty icy, and it was mainly elven attrition that kept me in the game]

When you're a Seattle baseball fan and you're used to the futility, it's far less aggravating (though still frustrating) to see the Mariners combust and burn out round about the end of the summer...you've seen it so many times, you're used to it. If you play B/X D&D regularly and you're inured to a random arrow wiping out your 1st level character, the sting just isn't there, and the rolling up of the new PC registers about the same as ordering a beer from the bar or opening another bag of potato chips. We can become accustomed to the whims of fate, the wins and the losses, if we Just Play More...and then the outcome of die results, the successes and failures, can be far less important than the play of the game itself.

This is what I've been trying to instill in my son this summer. I keep telling him how fortunate he is to even play baseball at all. Not only because of last year's pandemic wiping out the entire Little League season...no, I've been trying to instill in him the understanding that one day he won't even be able to play Little League at all. At some point he'll be too old. And even if he goes on to play in high school or college or professionally or whatever, there will come a day when even that will end. So enjoy it now. Enjoy every minute of it. Every chance to swing a bat or catch a pop fly or hang out in the dugout chewing gum and spitting and snarking with other ten year old kids. 

Yesterday, Diego's eyes got so lit up when we opened the Blood Bowl stuff. "Man I LOVE Blood Bowl!" he exclaimed...multiple times. And he does. Even when I was pounding his team into the dirt and prompting exclamations of "you suck" and "I hate this team" and whatever (in the moment) he still kept coming back to "I love this game." And he loved having the chance to play it again. Winning was just the cherry on top. 

And I know he feels much of the same about D&D and (other) role-playing games. 

I realize that much internet ink has been spilled over the debate of whether or not D&D (specifically) is "about telling stories." I know which side of that debate I'm on, and I also know that folks on the other side probably ain't going to be swayed much from their stance. So be it, yada-yada. For people on MY side, there should probably be no question as to the awfulness of fudging dice rolls ("cheating"), but I have to say that I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND the urge to do just that...to cheat the system, to get a result other than what is revealed through our oracular polyhedrons. Because we don't play enough. We don't get 162 games a year like a pro-baseball team does (I certainly don't!). We don't have so many swings of the bat that the sting of striking out has faded to a dull pain, easily brushed off with the hopeful "I'll get 'em next time...at least I get to play this sport!"

Maybe we just need to play more. With our family, with our friends, with our "community of gamers." Maybe we need to play enough and often enough that we (and those we play with) don't get hung up on the result of a particular roll of the dice. Because there will be more dice to roll...always...so long as we keep playing. And there's always the hopeful thought: I'll get 'em next time.

Okay. Time to go buy some coffee.

Wednesday, October 7, 2020

Blitz

First things first: congrats to the Seattle Storm winning their fourth championship, and in truly dominating fashion (they could have been named the Seattle Brooms for the number of series sweeps they've had in the playoffs over the years). By the 3rd period of yesterday's final, it was clear that Vegas had all but tapped out, and the Storm just dropped the hammer, nearly doubling up the Aces 92-59. It's not really fair for one team to have as much talent as Seattle does: even with (finals MVP) Breanna Stewart on the bench for a good chunk with foul trouble, Jewell Loyd and Jordin Canada were absolute beasts, and the ageless Sue Bird kept her team rolling like a steamroller, despite Las Vegas possessing the league MVP A'ja Wilson. Very cool to bring another trophy home to Sea-town.

[and props to Megan Rapinoe for rocking a Def Lepard t-shirt as she cheered on girlfriend Bird]

Okay. Onto Blood Bowl. One of the many (small) annoyances with the Blood Bowl game is its appropriation of (American) football terms for unrelated game concepts. For the most part, it's not too bad (see? I wrote "small" annoyances), but one of the really egregious misuses is with the term "blitz" epitomized in the player position called the "blitzer."

Here's what the game says about blitzers (from 2nd edition Blood Bowl):

These highly-skilled players are usually the stars of the game, combining strength and skill with great speed flexibility. All the most glamorous Blood Bowl players are blitzers, since they are at the heart of the action and doing very impressive things! Their usual job is to burst a hole through the opponent's lines, and then run with the ball to score. Team captains are usually blitzers, and all of them without exception are bossy, big-headed show-offs.

"Blitz" is a mascot, not a blitzer.

Originally, most teams were limited to a maximum of two blitzers (dwarf teams were the exception with four), and many teams (undead, goblins, halflings, elves) had no blitzers at all! 

[ugh...that reminds me I still haven't published my post on team positions and rosters]

Despite the inclusion of "blitz" in the name of the star position, there was no actual "blitzing" in 2E (unless one played with the official NAF rules...more on that in a moment).  This changed in 3E with the addition of the "blitz action:" once per turn, a single player was allowed to both block (i.e. hit an opponent) AND move. When executing a blitz action, the player may make their block at any point during their normal movement...it can represent bursting through the defensive line, or stiff-arming a defensive back, or chasing down an opposing ball carrier to deliver a big hit. This blitz action (and its limitation of "one time per turn") has been a part of the game ever since.

Problem is, in terms of American football, this still isn't a blitz.

A "blitz" (from the German word for lightning) is the term used for the defensive tactic of bringing extra pressure again an opponent, hoping to make a big play (a sack or tackle for loss) or...at the minimum...disrupt the timing and psychology of a passing quarterback. 

What is meant by "extra pressure?" Well, in an 11 on 11 game, the offense (generally) has five eligible receivers (yes, the QB is eligible, too, but only if someone else is handling the ball). Even if you get a hat on a hat with regard to the down linemen, that still gives the defense SIX players to defend those eligible receivers...which is often necessary because of the speed and talent of receivers and the inability of the defense to know what the offense's specific plan of attack is. Sending that extra player to try tackling the ball carrier in the backfield can be effective, but it leaves fewer players in coverage...and a QB that can make a quick decision and who anticipates the blitz can feast on blitzing defenses. 

On the other hand, if your offensive line is already overmatched, a blitzing defense can lead to a long, painful day for a team's quarterback.

All of which is to say: the blitz action in modern (3+ edition) Blood Bowl is completely unrelated to the defensive tactic called blitzing in American football. 

Now in modern Blood Bowl, there is one other application of the term: on the kick-off table (rolled randomly at the start of every drive) there exists the possibility of rolling a "Blitz!" in which case the defense (i.e. the team not starting with the ball) gets a bonus turn before the offense makes their first move. This is a callback to the "official NAF rules" found in the 2E Blood Bowl Companion, which offered the following, more-like-real-football rule:

THE BLITZ: Once per drive, the defence [sic] may declare a blitz which allows them to move first, before the offence [sic]. The blitz must be declared as soon as the defence sets up.

Since the NAF rules only allows four downs to score (and, also, because 2E Blood Bowl allows multiple moving block actions) the impact of the blitz rule can be devastating, even without players auto-fumbling when tackled. That being said, it is definitely closer to the spirit of gridiron football, both in terms of function and effect and we have been using a modified version of the NAF blitz in our games. Specifically:

  • We allow four downs to cross midfield (i.e. the 50 yard line) and a second set of downs to score
  • We require an offense to punt on 4th down if they fail to cross midfield unless they trail the other team in points and it is already the second half.
  • We allow the defense a second opportunity to blitz once a team crosses midfield.

What this does in play is create an interesting "chess match" between the two coaches. While we have introduced some "star player" skills that allow an offense to offset the effectiveness of a defensive blitz, generally speaking a blitz will be able to down the ball carrier for a loss unless the coach has some really poor luck with dice rolling. The real question is determining the best time to bring the blitz, based on situation and team set-up. If the kick-off pins the offensive coach near the goal line, a blitz can result in a safety for the defense. On the other hand, saving your blitz till 4th down (assuming you can hold the offense down) gives the defense a good chance to block a punt or field goal attempt!

It's worked quite well in practice, but it's still not really football. In football you can blitz every down...and be carved up by most any QB worth his salt. Of course, in real football, you only need to move the ball ten yards to get a fresh set of downs...it's a trade-off for playability that I'm willing to live with.

But I really, really can't stand the term "blitzer." Sorry, Griff Oberwald...a blitzer is a player who rushes the passer instead of dropping back in coverage. Your skill set says running back (tailback, halfback, whatever)...but even being the top scorer doesn't equal "the most glamorous" players on the pitch. That's the quarterback, man.

More on this (including position updates) later.

You can't fight a Storm; you
just try to weather it.